Wow, this was an incredible book that I just happen to stumble upon, at a time recently when I was going through troubling times myself. Men, typically keep a lot of their thoughts, fears, struggles and uncertainties bottled up inside of them, because most of us have not learned how to reach out to the support and resources that are all around us, because even we either don’t know how to identify them or don’t trust in them.
In this book, “He Motions” by T. D. Jakes, Jakes gives us such great insight onto how men typically work and think and end up carrying the burden alone, but at the same time, he shows us and teaches us how to build a better network of supportive men, a supportive significant other and a supportive family and peers all around us. Most men don’t know how to do this.
I know for myself, 2017 was very challenging year and a lot of regards, and found myself often dealing with my struggles alone because I didn’t think anybody else would understand, or I didn’t want to be viewed as a “failure” and not being able to handle my business. I’m so glad that I was able to reach out to a select group of “mainly man”, who have all been very understanding, supportive, and right there for me. All of them have offered to be there in the wee hours of the morning if I just need some to talk to. That is so comforting, and there’s something about “men being able to understand men”, just as “women being able to understand women”, but in this book, T.D. Jakes shows us how to involve our significant others in a nonthreatening, nonjudgmental way in which we will feel supported and appreciated for the person we are.
Here are some thoughts that T.D. Jakes shares with us and asks us throughout the book.
Do you find it difficult to express how you feel and what you need in your personal relationships? Do you have trouble communicating and developing relationships with other men? Does the weight of responsibility drag you down? Do you wonder why it seems difficult to get the support and encouragement you need from your wife? Do you often feel that there is a stronger, more effective leader inside you waiting to be developed? Do you wonder what God’s plan is for you?
And ladies, He-Motions is also for you. Inspirational and refreshingly honest, this is the ultimate source for women seeking to comprehend and care for the men in their lives. It helps you decode men’s often baffling behavior and provides eye-opening insights for greater intimacy and healing in your relationships.
T.D. Jakes, even though he is a “man of the cloth” doesn’t come across in this book as overly “preachy”, and even shares a lot of his own personal experiences in dealing with the opposite sex and some of his own fears and insecurities that he is dealt with throughout his life.
A fantastic book not only for men, but for women as well.
I’ve always been one who looks at my life as a “continued pursuit of learning”, and with this book, even at 60 years of age, I learned a tremendous amount and how to unload so many of these burdens that I carry along inside myself, onto a supportive group of friends who I can count on to get me through.
I highly encourage you to get this book!